Dreams of a New Normal...

[25yearsmlc]

Be careful Ak, I just went out of country with kids and h, but no one asked for the paperwork that was asked for in 06 when I went alone with the kids ....wth? I mean, I know h was with me this time, but it wasn't always obvious, so I was surprised. Leaving LAX for NYC and then Italy, I was asked for NO paperwork and h was not with us yet. (Met us in NYC). There, in NYC I guess they saw us together but no one asked "hey are you the parents?" that I can recall....just asked d12 if she recalled any of this and she said "no one asked us anything THIS time"... in the eastern bloc, Hungary, THEY ASKED US ONCE for paperwork and then on the night train, at least 4 diff "guards" from out of a bad film, grilled us. Not for kidnapping, more for "you smuggle!" (Which was either a declarative statement OR an accusation OR a question, couldn't tell with the accent....)

But your h is supposed to have your permission to leave IN WRITING NOTARIZED....with your signature of course. And no, I would not give it to him in a million years with things as they are....but if he does it without your permission, when he returns, he'll have lost a lot of credibilty and ground with any judge. Probably would have to have supervised visits forever for "kidnapping" them...seriously that IS a possibility. But does HE know that? Who knows?

Hey, would your h be open to Retrovaille? Are YOU? Just asking!!....don't think you ever mentioned it before come to think of it... and no, don't say it costs too much b/c I know for a fact they do NOT turn people down for lack of funds. They DO ask for an anonymous donation at the end of the weekend and you don't have to give anything. H and I went to it, and when we went, at the end we donated enough to cover us and another couple, and several of us did that if I read them right. Point is, that's how I know other couples paid nothing and I don't mind. Our society makes it hard enough to stay m, we should all do what we can to help those who can, to stay m. So much cynicism. Don't we know?

Oh, and by the way, haven't found you in fb land as I am not on the db fb group but brandnewday or kaini can find me for you if you want. You are not too far from me. Would love you to come hear a few min of my stand up, touching on the topic of m in there....hmmm...

j-

PS--d12 is better now. Scared the crap out of me. Required 24/7 attention and dipping her in the pool and putting ice on her chest, feet head and hands and she allowed it....highest fever I've seen and have older kids. s23 had a perforated eardrum from an ear infection and HIS fever never hit 105'F...so, WTH???

So, "Viral infection of unknown cause", but we had some gross things ruled out, thank God....and she's pretty good now. Yeah, that re-arranged my weekend and week...and I really am still tired from it all I think.

Gotta go, on that note...take care A/K and find me on fb so we can do a rl thingy...