So, I haven't posted in awhile because I didn't feel very welcome but I have been reading and learning from other situations. Whether my H is actually having another A or not, something has changed drastically and he is most definitely reaching outside our marriage for "support".
He has reverted to some behavior that he exhibited during the previous A time. The biggest being going out with friends drinking. Then, coming home, getting on the computer and staying up to drink all night. Generally, this results in him picking a fight with me either when I wake up or sometimes he wakes me up to fight with me. This actually happened last night. As I walked out of the house this morning for a workshop, he was yelling after me that he wants a divorce. Mind you, this was while my friend was in the driveway. Ironically, the workshop was about domestic violence/child abuse.
He is still texting this person that I wrote about before. And, I think she was at the place he went to with friends last week. I'm trying to remind myself that full spy mode is not healthy for me but it's hard. Even though it's not good DBing to talk R, I think I need to tell him that I think something is wrong and what's happening right now is not how I want to live. Hopefully, he'll see it and want to work on it too. But, I don't know how else to get the point across that this stuff is not ok with me.
