Puppy, it was the suggestion about my sex life with my h that I felt was out of line and not appropriate. When I called him on it, he did his usual "you're so touchy" thing that annoys the crap out of most women, (yeah, I know, it's a generalization but I'll stick by it anyhow). And it's not the first time robx talked that way to women here, who's situations he knows nothing of.....so a few don't post here anymore and yeah, I think tristan loses b/c of that.
I do think if you have not read someone's thread you ought to use a bit of restraint with the suggestions or commentary b/c the chance of you getting it way off, are a lot higher. There, that's my point.
back to you, Tristan, how willing is your w's family to help her get help? do they "get it"? What's with the "MIL" comment? I'm assuming she makes things way worse but does SHE admit your w had a few "issues"? Does mil feel guilty or ashamed and therefore act more in denial?
Have you given some serious thought to not simply handing over the kids if she's acting unstable? Custody --can you take them on full time IF needed? Here's the caveat....if you have left her with the kids in the past on her own for extended time, like when you were on business trips, then it's hard to suddenly say "You're too crazy to care for them now" as it will look vindictive.
This does NOT apply if you have noticed new, odd behavior that has nothing to do with OM...cuz if it's all about OM, then you may look punitive. (Not saying that the OM stuff is normal or healthy, but I am saying the court will want "evidence" that you see odd behavior that does not relate to her apparent rejection of you. Make sense? I think you have some of this with the emotional outbursts, and swings, but that's what they'll look to, fyi).
Good luck, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
