Wow, That sounds pretty awesome to me. I think sometimes we just have to forget that these women are divorcing us and just "go with it." Just dont act all clingy after this and I dont think you could have done too much damage. This would be a 180, right?
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
BTW, sometimes when I talk to my divorced friends and I ask what went wrong in their marriage, a lot of them say that they dominated their husbands and it just wasn't any fun anymore. They wanted someone they could wrassle with.
I realize we are all talking about marital problems here. But Thinker no longer has marital problems, so I would like to get some feedback on my mother issues.
My S20 is now enroute home from NJ where he spent the summer as a lifeguard on a beach on the Atlantic Ocean. This week he was involved in rescuing a man and child in a sailboat a mile from shore. In discussing with my mother what a great athlete S20 is, I said that it is amazing that he turned into such a great athlete because he never did sports while he was in high school. I was referring not just to his strong swimming skills, but also his surfing and wakeboarding hobbies. My mother said, "You have me to thank for him being an athlete." I was surprised by this statement, as I had never known her to actively do anything to coach him in his sports. So I ask how she was responsible for him being a great athlete. She said that she owned the house at the beach, and if he didn't have the opportunity to live at the beach in the summer, it never would have happened. Certainly, he couldn't not have been a surfer living where I live!
OK, so, I already know that she takes credit for every good thing I have ever done, but I thought that the third generation would either be able to take credit for their own achievements or perhaps some credit could go to me. Perhaps I could say that he was a great athlete because I paid for his entry fee to the cable park he wakeboards at. Or because I paid for his college, car, and food, so he could spend all his money on surfboards and wakeboards and the other costs of his hobbies. Or maybe, just maybe, it was that little boy who jumped in the pool and swam all the way across when the lifeguard at our swim club said he had to do that before he could jump off the diving board. Or the kid at 14 who said, "I want to be a lifeguard, but I don't know if I'd pass the test." And the mother who said, "there's only one way to find out."
So now that it's been said, do I have to thank my mother for making him an athlete?
