Counseling first, then we'll talk about divorce if that doesn't work. "Well it won't! I want out! I want a D!" I would say "I understand. You've explained this to me before and again, I would like counseling so I can be as sure as you." Infuriated him. I told him "This conversation is old, you always get so upset, so maybe you should stop bringing it up?" Eventually, he did.
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Oh how I love that one!! Thanks Stronger for sharing your scenario - I have printed out your words of wisdom and am practising them in my head ... will definitely use them on H next time he says the same to me. This will, I feel, give me some modicum of control back, where as I currently feel that I am rolling over for him to tickle my tum. It all seems to be on H's terms and I am getting nothing that I want. This fits in a little more with my pattern for 'fighting' for my M. Good on you!! First genuine smile I have had, from the heart, in days :o)
How are things panning out for you now - I see that your H wants to come home but wants more time, from your signature?
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
