I had a similar experience--and it seems like self-esteem and self-actualization are supposed to be a much higher priority than our families and spouses. My xH got kudos for "living into his honesty" and leaving behind a life "that no longer fit, like an old overcoat." Yeah, so when your family no longer meets your needs, you discard them like old clothes? And the MC we saw to work out issues related to our D allowed x to completely set the agenda because "since he is the one who wants to leave, he has all the power." And it was just something I had to get used to, that I "may never find peace or closure" about H leaving us for someone else. And that was just fine. xH got a big grin at that point, and told me he "better not hear another word about an affair or I'll walk right out of here." No comment from the MC--who I paid $100/hour to enable further emotional trauma. Where do these people come from?
Sorry for the hijack, just that I can so understand the outrage at counselors, who can do so much damage.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
