Thank you for stopping by my thread. You have been an inspiration and I admire your determination to remain happy in your sitch.
I am sorry to hear about your H filing just so he can get you out of the house. Is there any way that you can fight that?
For me, I find it a bit easier to GAL and work on me with my H not living with me. Unfortunately, he can't see the changes but they are for me anyways. Actually, I feel more emotionally unbalanced when he comes to visit, trying to make sure I am doing and saying the right things. It is a work in progress.
Sending hugs your way
ALJ
Me:34 H:34 D:7 D:6 D:3 T:20years M:10years Bomb: Feburary 2009 Separated: May 2009 EA confirmed March 2010
He's not in the house right now.. hasnt been for 1.5 yrs while stationed elsewhere. that is why I want to try to be in the same house for the 3 months he will be back (oct-dec)... I feel that too much seperation has been part of our problem. but alas he is determined to have his way. so even though I said I would let things go this weekend.. I have gotten some boxes and started doing some packing of stuff I dont use daily. Its been tough, finding pictures of us and post cards with alot of mushy I love you and you are the love of my life yada yada. I figured best to leave those here for him.. so when he does come off of his high from being independent and on the go he may remember what he use to have...
otherwise.. I am feeling pretty good. it was actually freeing to take everything out of his night stand and dump it in a box and shove it in his closet... yes.. If I am moving I am taking all of the furniture with me!! I bought it when we bought the house 5 yrs ago and I am not letting some other woman use it when I am gone... so he can live out of boxes until he finds time to shop for more...
oops there goes my bipolar betty routine... back in check.. happy me will get buzy again and find joy in cleaning and decluttering my stuff so its all in order for my move to the condo!!
I hope you have a great weekend!! Mary
M - 45 1st marriage H - 45 2nd M -T - 14 yrs M - 13 yrs S - due to job location since 1/08 B - 7/6/2009 EA revealed -9/3/2009 began 6/09 E/A end 9/09 piercing: since 10/09 long distance
I felt great when I moved my H's things out! Just not seeing his presence in every room was so good for me. Its all still in the garage, but at least its not in my bedroom, or living room, etc. It was empowering.
As far as Im concerned, he left over a year ago, he abandoned anything that he had a right to! He took his guns and basically left everything else. Ive thought about selling some of it, the 4 wheeler, boat, and he has a pretty good sized collection of swords, but I dont think that I could justify that. And I really like having a 4 wheeler!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
