What stuck *and* mac said. Doing "almost all the chores" plus detailing her truck isn't a 180. It's like a 240. It's *more* than your fair share. So naturally you will *expect* to get some appreciation. Then when you don't ....
Do what you genuinely *want* to do or what you feel is a fair share of responsibility. That way you're doing it for *you* (as a useful member of the household) and not for *her*. That way, however she responds, you won't tend to feel the same resentment, 'cause you didn't do it "for her".
If she senses on any level with that wifely ESP that you're doing any of this to make an impression on her, it may well piss her off, because she might feel like it's fake and she's being gamed. That would tend to produce irritation and defensiveness, not gratitude.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
