Divorce not busted 3

[AnotherNightmare]

Orich,

I did not read all your posts, but I think our situations are very similar. I thought we were better, we even went to Retro, but we are back where we used to be. And OM might still be in the mix, at least she keeps him somehow as a backup plan.

I think what stuck said hits the nail on the head. Expectations are bad. I did the same things hoping that she would recognize how much I love her. As long as she is in a fog and - in my case - does not end the EA permanently, forget about expectations. I do what I need to do around the house, but other than some tactical coordinating around the kids, I do what I want. I ignore her pretty much. It is pretty hard when you still live in the same house, so I understand your problem very well. But getting to that point is crucial if you truly want to detach.

In my mind I have defined the event that will change all this. It is the moment she says "I am sorry I hurt you" or something similar. As long as she does not pay attention to the piece of wood in her own eye, she is none of my business.

AN