Thank you so much. This is very helpful and *please* share more thoughts if you can spare the time.
I honestly am still in disbelief at how awesome the people on this forum are. I've always been a guy who keeps things close. I have only a few close friends and don't share much. This is all new to me.
I wish I had had this forum 1 1/2 months ago when I was begging and grovelling and calling my wife at OMs house. My actions didn't help things much I suspect.
And yes, at that time I did bash him. He's polar oppositie of me in just about every way. I pleaded with her to see that he wasn't good enough for her..on and on...I'm ashamed of that. I have been very selfish.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09