Yes, this is incredibly hard for H's parents. They don't condone his behaviour and they are incredibly loving people but they feel caught because he is their son. They have been very clear with me that they want our relationship to continue as always. I did offer to step back from the family as respect to them so it wouldn't cause any issue but my inlaws were adamant this was not to happen. There has been no real issue to date because he doesn't seem to take her too many places. This is only the second time they have met her.
