Well never mind... I had plans tonight to give wife a back rub. (I am good at it) but she conveniently sat in a position that did not allow. I told her I wanted to give her a back rub and she said "that’s ok" in other words "no"...

OT I have tried allot of what you have said. I have thought I saw progress but could I just be filing in the blanks with positives because that is what I want?
No matter what I do could it be possible No matter what, wife is not interested and just hanging around?
Should I just come right out and ask wife if we are separated? the other night when son and I were camping and we called her and she said she enjoys her solitude and I said does that mean you don’t want to me married she said “that’s not what I said”….

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know