New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Carlos,

After work, I went to my see my PTSD counselor for my weekly meeting, then I went to a church meeting. Later I went to the gym to lift weights, and I came home. That's really it. I try to be home before it gets too dark. I have a hard time being out when it's dark...too many night patrols in Iraq, too many memories, good and bad. That's why I really don't go out at all in the evening, unless it's to go visit with the neighbors across the street.

I understand the important concept to stop mindreading and reading too much into something. It always ends up being counter-productive. Like you said, I should just acknowledge any gesture, then let it go. That way I stay focused on the NOW and myself. Makes a lot of sense.

As far as talking with my W on the phone, I never raise my voice. I've always kept an absolutely calm attitude for the past 6 months, even if my W sometimes uses her mad/mean voice. But I don't let it get to me. I think my W has noticed how calm I am when I call her. Calm and upbeat.

Anyway. I hope you are holding on OK, Carlos. I know how hard it must be after your son left this week. I hope you made a LOT of memories.

Veronica and Michelle, I hope you guys have a great weekend. Keep your spirits up.

Hugs to all three of you.

JR