Oh, but you ARE DBing; at least the way it is defined here. You are GALing and moving forward.
Most people here will not save their marriages. The most they can salvage is their dignity. And you are doing great in that regard.
I agree with that. You know I think if you DB your butt off, whether your marriage survives or not, you are a success. Sometimes I think reconciliation can be the hardest, toughest thing to go through for LBS, sometimes maybe it's easier for those of us who D really.
DBing is working on making changes and focusing on what you can change and control in your life. You really sound like you are doing that. You seem to have lost some of your anger and replaced it with detachment, which I think is really good. Karen
