I have anxiety and I am a very obesessive person. I have made this more imporatant than my very young children and that is sad.

As for the A with my H..I had a feeling which was odd because this woman has nothing to offer but I did not like the way she was flirting with my H. She was my best friend, we were inseprable so I blew it off. It finally came out when she was going through something she could not tell me about. I told a friend at work. I left work, this woman that did not really like me too much called me on my cell phone(asked for number from my manager) and told me she had seen my H in her mini van. I called H, he denied it, left for sisters house, came back the next day said he wanted a D I changed his mind, he said he was sorry, nothing happened..I could not let it go. I obessesed and badgered day after day for almost 2 years.

My H is living in our basement. There is no physical contact whatsoever as he states he is not attracted to me, only loves me as a friend.

I stopped talking about it to HIM 3 weeks ago but not to others. I obesess about it. Day after day, minute after min. When I think I am okay he does something that makes me anxious and I lose all hope.

If he is having an A with this woman who has 3 children of her own when will it END!!!! Maybe he is IN LOVE with her!

I have always been able to convince him that we should stay together, he said we are just not good together, we are better off as friends. I dont believe it...Not in the least..our relationship has always been very passionate and loving..My one gripe was he was never afraid of losing me..That bothers me. It bothers me that I really am not sure he can comprehend the full ramifications of his leaving..Our children are very young and he said because they are so young it will not affect them too much. I disagree.
He has given me many chances to change but he has not done one thing to change..He has not tried..HE said we have tried so many times..we have tried for 10 years but he has been an alcoholic as well the whole time..we have not really tried..and now I feel we owe it to our children to try..really try!