Kevin, if you think people want you to walk away, and pretend she doesn't exist, you are not reading right.
They are trying to tell you, though you consistently don't want to hear it (don't ask why I am typing this) that it would be very helpful for you, and your chances of saving your M, to detach your emotions from her every action. To move your every day focus to you, and off of her. To not analyze every word she says, and everything she does.
What you have insisted on doing is almost (and I will only say almost, since there is an exception for every rule) certainly chasing her away. And every day you chase is reducing the chance that she will ever come back.
Praying and faith are excellent tools. But you also need to do the best that you can do. Have you heard the story of the guy on the roof in a flood? He prayed for God to save him. A man in a boat came, and he sent him away... "God will save me." Later a helicopter came, and he sent them away... "God will save me." Well, he died on that roof, and went to see God in person, and asked, "Why didn't you save me?" "I sent a boat, and a helicopter, what did you want?"
The path to where you need to end up may not be the path you think you need to take. Just give it some thought. If nothing else, I would suggest that you really, really back off for a while. See what happens. You might be surprised. Sometimes the best action is no action.
