Wifey - some things I've done have definitely gotten a positive reaction.
Playing games with the family. Spending time with the kids - when we got home from Six Flags, she came and gave me a hug. She was impressed with the things I did last weekend, getting the basketball hoop, etc. (We had back-to-school night thius week, and my son had written in a couple of assingments how he loved playing basketball Doing more around the house, she's commented on. She's even commeneted on my efforts to take care of myself.
Last time we went through this, I caught her attention by doing unexpected things in the house... buying a new comforter for the bed, a little table, making it "my" room. That took her by surprise. Something to think about.
She responds well to me sitting and talking with her, spending time. I just need to be careful that it's not pursuing.
She's going out with a friend again tonight.
Lately, if I'm not sitting in the main room when she gets home she'll come find me. Well, last night when I got home, she was basically, "I'm going to bed." After yesterday I think we'd both had enough for the day. I'm just hoping this doesn't propell her forward.
Doing more around the house, she's commented on. She's even commeneted on my efforts to take care of myself.