It means a lot to me to hear from you and to hear I am doing it right (finally lol)...
I thought I would feel bad by being evasive but the more he texted back, the bigger the smile on my face became...
I could see the wheels turning via text and a part of me did feel a smidge bad however I squashed that portion down
squashed,squashed,squashed,squashed,squashed goes those feelings and the smile gets bigger.
Most of us that write letters don't actually send them. It is just to get that stuff out of you and on paper.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
H has a birthday on Sunday... Do I acknowledge it or just allow the kids to get him a card? Not sure what to do at this junction...
My H had a birthday last weekend. I got him a very simple generic Happy Birthday card, signed it with "hope you have a good one" and left it where he'd see it.
It was sad for me bc I always take time to get a really good card and I always sign it with I Love You but this time- I did neither. Apparently he found it bc later he said thank you for the card, to which I replied you're welcome.
The kids got him a card on their own as well.
For what it's worth...
H 51/W 43 Together 24yrs/Married 19yrs 2 kids- D18 & S16 "I want out" July 2008 "I want out" Dec 2008 "I want you out" Aug 2009 Still in house thru it all
When my H had a Birthday, I got him a Giant Cookie that was decorated with Happy Birthday. I left it on the island in the kitchen for him to find on the morning of his Birthday. I did not get him a card, because the cookie said it all.
I also got him a set of DVD's which he still hasn't opened. Don't know why, maybe guilt. I probably should have stopped at the cookie.
My Birthday was 3 months later, and I went away for the weekend. He didn't even acknowledge it. His script probably said " Forget it's W Birthday, it will really hurt her!"
