Yes, I am sure you can tell the Judge at the conference.
This is why when I posted to you a few weeks ago, I knew it was too soon and you were running on pure emotion not on common sense.
You can tell the Judge you are concerned about the finances, and perhaps come to some sort of agreement.
Yes, the lies and the deception are both difficult to deal with, but if you can begin to work on yourself and stop making the focus and reason of your very being, your Husband, you will begin to feel better.
Start by practicing forgiveness, a little bit each day.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.