Still seems strange...the talk about the flowers next year, her talking to my sister about Christmas this year. It feels like if we're going to be together then put your ring on and let's try to work on things together. I realize it's not that easy, but part of me wonders why not. If you're in, be in. I'm not temperature taking any more though, so I'm not asking if she's in. ...like I said...taking it slower this time.
The answer is she's NOT "IN" right now. She's in between IN and OUT, and she doesn't know which one to turn to. You giving her space, acting cool and working on you clears a path back to IN - but it's HER choice.
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How do I still have these Ups & Downs myself???
Last night I could barely stand to look at her. Now I want to call her and tell her how much I love her!!!
Ups and downs are b/c you haven't yet detached. It doesn't happen like flipping a light switch. It takes time and then, it just happens. Keep working at it and it will come.
Oh, and DO NOT tell her you love her. Right now, it will only remind her she does not feel that way about you.
For what it's worth, I haven't told my W ILY or receieved that from her since very shortly after the bomb in April.
Hang in there. You can do this. Just keep repeating time is your friend. B/c it is even though it doesn't feel like it. She IS watching you.
