Well, I have been doing very well with not contacting him. He, however, has called or come by and talked to me EVERY DAY.
I know he is still confused and I am trying to keep patient. I really don't think he saw OW for any length of time last week. He was strangely forthcoming with his whereabouts even though I didn't ask. He keeps telling me conflicting things. I was encouraged that he told me about several conversations he had with friends about possible reconciliation. He also went out of his way to talk with my parents. I think he is testing the waters to see how the world would feel about this. He has always been very worried about what people think of him, especially his friends.
Last night he called from out of town and I gave my phone to the kids to answer. They spoke with him then he asked to talk to me. Small talk, about his conflicted feelings.
This morning I called and left a message because my daughter wanted to talk with him last night and I thought he could wake her up on the phone. Again, he called back and I let him talk to the kids, then he asked to talk to me. After we talked for 15 minutes, he told me that he thinks we are maybe talking too much (I didn't point out that it is he who asks to talk to me every time) and maybe "if we go through with this" (?) he should get some of his own furniture and put mine in storage, which he offered to pay for.
I told him whatever he wanted to do was fine. He needs to make his own choices. I think he is finally thinking things through for himself. Every day is a new personality and I think I am getting better at rolling with the punches.
