Thanks for the response, and man, you are either a mindreader or I'm subconsciously following a sript:
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To get to this point what has been the journey: - bomb - introspection - work on valid issues for yourself - detach - lose some feelings for your spouse (doubts) - patience - things settle into new "normal"
I can check each and every one of those off, and in that order. Man, you're good.
On the losing feelings for W/doubt thing, I went to a work luncheon yesterday (local business association). And another attorney sat across the table from me. And she was drop dead gorgeous. I mean take your breath away, only woman in the room kindo of beautiful. Now, I would not (I hope) act on that while M'd, but good God, if that's what's out there...OK, back to the issue at hand.
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Two fun and easy things for you: play with your kids and do fun stuff with them, ramp up your GAL activities. Make sure your wife knows she is invited but go have blast either way.
Here was the plan I came up with last night for this weekend. We've not been camping as a family - not our thing. So, I'm buying a tent today on the way home from work - not telling anyone. When I get home, I'm going to set it up in the back yard and the kids and I are going to sleep in it (probably tomorrow night b/c it's supposed to rain tonight). W can join if she wants (she probably won't since she's fighting a pretty nasty cold), but I'm doing it either way. Kids and I will have a great time. He!!, maybe I'll roast marshmellws on the gas grill - real camping!
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You do have a say in where you are headed. Find your kid's copy of "Oh, the Places You Will Go" and pay attention the part about getting out of the waiting place. You have been chosen to be the leader of your family. You have been learning, growing, and thinking. Now it's time to keep taking action in the right direction. (Beware of your wife testing you.)
I wills earch the kids' rooms for a copy of the book - we have a bunch of those, but I'm not sure we have that one. And, thanks for the warning about W testing me.
