THanks - I'm doing better at keeping my mouth shut, but it's the internal reactions that are hard to bear. I think they call this "fight or flight"? I get an enormous knot in my stomach and I get almost dizzy, like I can't think straight. Sitting still with those feelings is so painful. I'm working on self soothing. In the past, I just wanted him to stop - but asking, explaining, even walking away just escalated. That was during my better moments. During my worse, I would just start raising my voice to shout over him and there ya go, we're both being angry.
So, you are right. Concentrate on the moment , staying calm even if my internal emergency system is going off, and not allow the escalations of the past. Who knows, he might even notice! lol
