How do you wait this out?

[Golfgirl1]

Issues: He did not initiate intimacy, was always me. when I asked him why, he said he was afraid of rejection.
He didn't like the 'emotional drama' of teaching. I would bring home my work, as a teacher, and talk WAY too much about it. He said we didn't talk enough about HIS work.
I didn't know enough about his company. He said we didn't talk enough about whether he should buy it and what the responsibilities of that decision would bring.
He said I was too frugal.
He said I could be negative and angry.
He admits to being a horrible communicator and didn't address any of the issues with me, so I just kept going along on my merry way not knowing of his building anger and resentment.
He had a HORRIBLE childhood and feels those issues are now surfacing...

What do I need to work on? Lots....and I am. I have spent months beating myself up for not realizing what he needed and I didn't provide. I married an amazing man and really, really want to spend my life with him....