I'm new to the board, but I printed out the 180 list and keep it in my wallet. I read it at least once a day, especially if I'm going to be in contact with my WAS. You can find the 180 on this site or I'll be happy to post it for you so you can print it out.
And these points really hit home for me:
1) The person that cares the least controls the relationship. Keep doing your 180 and gain the upper hand!
2) Patience, patience, patience. Your marriage didn't get this way overnight and it's not going to fix itself overnight.
3) GAL - I fought this originally, but now I am doing just that and I'm loving it. Sure there are days I might backslide a little and feel sorry for myself, but those days are becoming less and less. Get a hobby. I am golfing for the first time ever. I stink at it, but am having a blast.
