For once, I see your point. (There's a first time for everything, I guess. LOL.)
Doc,
as the others are saying, you've got to woo her. And the way to do that is to understand her LL. Whatever that is. Sometimes they're so darn coy about what really pleases them and what they really want, I'll be the first one to admit, and it makes for great difficulty in finding out what "frequency" their radio is tuned to. With some it takes the patience of a saint to figure anything out, and even then there are no guarantees.
(Why, oh, why, ladies, does it have to be so?!?)
But you have the patience of a whole boatload of saints, so I know you're more than capable.