Robx, probably part of what we have here is a failure to communicate in the same way. I get very twitchy when I hear statements framed as "she is doing x because of y/she will/she feels" or "You should/need to" etc instead of "she may be...." , "you might consider" etc.
Declarative statements of that nature, especially regarding a complex and indeed possibly dangerous situation we only hear one half of seem to me to betray a lamentable lack of humility and caution and can also be easily perceived as bullying a person who is understandably *desperate* for some, any, answer.
Although of course you are right to point out that Tristan is a grown man and can weigh all of our advice rationally while always remembering what he paid for it.
Regarding the meds, I don't think anyone is expecting Tristan to monitor her compliance. By his account, her physicians are still experimenting with correct dosage. These are psychoactive drugs, not get-out-of-infidelity-free sugar pills we're talking about here. This seems like a good time for watchful waiting, if he's able to endure and still maintain his own mental balance. IMHO.
We should probably bow out of the debate portion of the program now, as I think Tristan probably has enough drama in his home without worrying about it on his thread.
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