So forget about the OW.....

Yes easier said then done, but try.

Yes it will be your choice as to whether or not he comes back.

You are the one in control of this situation, and once you realize the power you have, things will change in your head.

You are going to have to try and be his friend, NOT his wife or mother.

Don't do things to spite him or punish him.

Don't be vindictive.

Buy duct tape for your mouth and learn to bite your tongue.

As backwards as this is going to seem, he needs to learn how to trust you. Yes, he betrayed your trust......but MLC is a whole other kettle of fish.

Trust me on this one!!

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.