Hello, darling! I always love to see you're checking in on me.
So, there isn't too much drama going on w/me. GF and I are doing much better as she's feeling like a tremendous weight has been lifted off her shoulders w/her new job and now that her daughter's 16th birthday party is over with (it was a pretty good party).
GF and I will be going to Vegas for Labor Day to get away and spend some time together. I'm looking forward to that as well as to this weekend as we'll be able to be w/each other w/out a lot of stressors hanging over us.
GF is getting more and more interested which is really cool.
On the XW front, things are simply more of the same. X will be nice on her terms, but I'm refocused on not letting it affect me too much and just accepting her as the mean, bitter, and broken person she is. I can't change that and I really don't want to try.
She called the other day to tell me that there was a new pickup procedure at school and I thanked her for letting me know. Then she told me she's updated D's emergency list at school and that after her and me, she's put BF and two of her female friends down as contacts in case they can't reach one of us.
I told her I was ok w/that as long as her BF and friends were going to contact me in the event of an emergency. I let her know that I was concerned as I've been "demonized in their eyes" so if they are going to be caring for my D in my absence, I wanted to know if they would be calling me or holding out information b/c of what X has led them to believe about me. I said if they weren't going to be willing to let me in if needed, I'm not willing to let them be on the list.
X tried to reassure me that her two friends had asked for my number right away so they could contact me if needed in an emergency, but she was quiet when I challenged her on how she's made me out to be. I did say "fairly or unfairly, but they are biased against me which does make me uncomfortable as far as D is concerned."
As usual, when confronted w/being in the wrong, X had no reply.
She also clammed up when I asked if BF would be willing to call me as well since "he can't even bring it upon himself to make eye contact or causally say hello when we meet, so I'm not too confident that he'll be willing to let me know if my own daughter is sick." Again, no response from X.
I don't know if I should have said anything or not, but I did want X to know that I am concerned as to how I'm being portrayed to people, but only as it relates to my D.
Finally, today, D woke up and complained of a sore throat. I looked at it, didn't see anything swollen or red, so I pretty much left it alone. D also was super chatty, so I figured her throat couldn't hurt that much.
Anyway, I sent X a text while transporting D to school to give her a head's up as to what was going on. I also told X that D was chatty but I'd also be writing a note to have her see the nurse just in case.
X sends a reply chastising me for "texting while driving" b/c it is "very dangerous" and I replied to let her know I was texting at stop lights and while I appreciated her concern, I wanted to know if we could get back to discussing D's throat.
X sends a snotty reply saying that I told her she was chatty and would send her to the nurse, so "what is there to discuss?"
I replied by telling her I was merely trying to communicate about our D and not looking to start a fight. I asked her to let me know what happens w/D's throat and to have a good day.
No surprise - no reply from X.
So, I'm trying to take the high road while still making sure my boundaries are understood. I think I did ok, but I'm not sure if some of the things I did in the past few exchanges were necessary or not.
