Do not change your name if you don’t want to. You said he had an issue with it and I wondered why you didn’t….not by any means suggesting anything, I was just curious.
I wondered about his background vs. yours because my husband and I are from very different back grounds too, but have much of the same values still. So different back grounds….it doesn’t have to be a deal breaker.
I think maybe going dark might work for you, have an impact. And it will mean more when he’s here and you aren’t trying to contact him. And when he tries to get money out of you, kindly tell him, “When you walked away, you walked away from everything. It’s a matter of self respect….do you understand?” And stop supporting him. Or you give him the money and ask exactly when he’ll pay you back….but I would just say no kindly. And he needs to know, he can be a masculine manly man in the marriage. He didn’t have to leave it to find himself.
If he asks you again about where you are going to live, ask him why he’s asking. Again, he walked away.
You are a strong, sexy, smart woman. Act like it. No more asking him to work on things. Time to go dark.
And I think Gucci’s program may do wonders for you. I really do. I don’t recommend it for everyone, but I think you could learn a lot from him.
