I still think that the strongest hook for your W is the lifestyle, security, and benefit to your kids that might come from you guys working it out. How you implement this knowledge, not sure yet.
I see a lot of wisdom in what GL says.
Really all I can do right now for myself and my M is GAL, 180 and stay engaged in a positive way. I have to keep working on the mind reading because I really don't know what's going on in her head. She could be deeply considering her love for me or she could be playing super nice to make a divorce settlement go more in her favor. It makes me soooo sad to think of that possibility. I just have to keep working on putting it out of my mind. I can't control it.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09