My Intro: Thanks for Reading!

[RedSoxFan]

LOVE is suppose to be FUN not WORK. When it becomes too much WORK there is a tendency for one of the parties to search out a different and FUN relationship.

I agree with this point 100%. The point I was trying to make is that the business of life...maintaining a strong partnership, raising kids, etc. is a lot of work. Not necessarily hard, thankless work but attention, nurturing cultivation, etc. Not doing that work or not doing it well slowly turned the fun part of of love into the work only I wouldn't have called it work because to me the work part is also a necessary part.

My counselor said something about affairs that really stuck with me. He said that Affairs rarely progress into successful long-term relationships because they happen in a vacuum. In other words all of the 'fun' that comes with love without the 'work' that grounds in reality.

For me the love was there with w but I feel like it turned into work over time until we both sought out new fun relationships. Again for me, I realize how strong the love was and is and I realize that I can do so much better at the work part and I want to do it. I want to do the work so that the fun and love can live and thrive again.