Just want my H back

[pearlharbr]

hhh,

First of all, if you're ever in Denver and want to meet up for a drink, let me know.

Secondly, I hit a major road bump with BF last night so I'm not up for a lot of advice or insight today.

I agree that what men often like in the beginning they decide is too much later on..and I know that i need to work on some tendencies too.

In the book After the Affair it talks about how personal qualities are like coins, there are two sides. What we like about a person has a flip side that we don't like and vice versa. For example, I don't like that BF doesn't plan ahead for anything which leads to missing out on doing things. On the flip side, he is spontaneous which leads to experiences that we'd never have planned.

I hope that sheds a little light on that phenonmenon. It has helped us to discuss that and gain some understanding of what each person brings to the table.