I read your first post, coffee. It is very similar to my sitch, except as soon as I found out we were in trouble, I began my 180's. W even sees the changes in me. Never once in our M, by the way, did I not let her know how much I was attracted to her. Anyway, in our case she feels like it is too late for her. Thats what she says, anyway. Her actions sometimes say differently.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.