There is no set amount of time during a MLC, just stages which they go through, the worst being replay.
If you are hoping that a reconcilliation will occur any time soon, stop, replay can take years.
Your Husband will say lots of things to you, some of which totally contradict each other.
He will tell you he loves you. He will tell you he hates you. He will tell you that you ruined his life. He will tell you he wants to make things work.
It will go back and forth as he is trying to figure out the things in his head.
The OW will have a strong hold on him during this stage, especially because he knows he is being so bad and rebellious.
You are like the Mom right now, he will keep touching base with you, just to make sure you are still keeping an eye on him.
You are going to have to learn that when he gets nasty or has a spew session, you will keep your mouth shut and not argue with him.
Let him have his say, validate, be kind yet firm.
Do not give him ultimatums, or set conditions on him.
You can still have boundaries, but these are for you, mainly to help keep your sanity.
My Husband's MLC was triggered by the death of his Father in 2002. He changed over night. I got the bomb in 2004. He came home in the Summer of 2007.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
