I didn't think of those things. I assumed it was a car-camping thing. Good points.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
I have 3 tents: - an ultralight 1-person for when it is just me. - a solid 3 season 2-person tent for backpacking with someone else - a 4-person tent I used for family camping.
Now that we have 3 kids, I am probably going to buy a 6-person.
This weekend we are using both the 4-person and the 2-person.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
I've been reading your sitch. I admire your strong committment to your marriage. I just want to tell you that what ever happen you will be in a good place at the end.
I am close to WAW. I think I was already in one time. Then I think about my children how it's going to affect them. I go back to trying again. So I think I can understand your W. I'm not good on giving advice.
I will not bore you with my sitch. But it is so close to yours but I'm the W.
You take care of yourself and your kids. can't go wrong on that. I will pray for your family.
I got it, coffee. Thank you so much. I am going to go and read your posts. Maybe I can glean some information that will help my situation.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
I read your first post, coffee. It is very similar to my sitch, except as soon as I found out we were in trouble, I began my 180's. W even sees the changes in me. Never once in our M, by the way, did I not let her know how much I was attracted to her. Anyway, in our case she feels like it is too late for her. Thats what she says, anyway. Her actions sometimes say differently.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
hmmm. That's hard to think of something to replace camping. I must admit, after a few days in NJ, I've had enough pizza. Maybe there is some good local theatre you could go to.
I just brought all my folders and notebooks to the Retrouvaille session, and we had just enough to go around. They had some last minute registrations. Usually there are some no-shows, but not this time. We had 29 couples. That is a big turn-out. We can only take 30 couples at a weekend. Usually we have 21-25 couples. This group looked more relaxed than usual. I will be thinking about them all weekend, and sending positive thoughts to them.
When you and Orich go for your weekends, I will be praying for you too.
I know that I am supposed to "Let the WAS come to me" but...
Last night, Mrs. Thinker and I went to a dinner party together. She dressed up, wore jewelry I bought her years ago and looked great, we had fun, and it almost felt like a date.
We were both a bit drunk, and I was feeling reckless and aggressive.
After we got home, I surprised her in the kitchen with a kiss. She turned away, but I turned her back and kissed her again. She said "You can't MAKE me kiss you" and I replied something like "Yes, I can, but it's more fun if I don't have to." (Not really sure myself what I was trying to say - just me making an off the cuff smart-ass response)
I smiled and went upstairs. She followed and I was trying to ignore her as she got undressed for bed and I brushed my teeth. She walked in and out of the bathroom wearing just her underwear and I made a decision.
I followed, surprised her in the bedroom, pinned her against the wall and kissed her hard.
She looked surprised, then shocked.
...Then quickly she responded and kissed back
...then I...
Well, you know...
---- I haven't been that aggressive in a LONG time, always trying to respect her stated desires - "I don't want that right now"
...but it's time for something different. Besides, what is the worst thing she could do, Divorce Me?? - Oh right, I'm already there.
----
Neither of us has said a thing about it today. We played with the kids a bit, had lunch together. She re-started a project to hang curtains in the dining room, and is now out at the store picking the curtain rod.
Mrs. Thinker was paging through the ads that came in the mail today and pointed one out to me from a fine jewelry store that is having a sale - "Do you want to go look and see?" (talking about replacing her wedding ring)
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Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
