thanks giving. it appears after a little research that one woman emailed him another woman's naked pics, which is a little confusing. I don't know either of them, or whether these photos were even of someone he knows. Yes, he does sound immature. I am 27, he is 33. There didn't seem to be any real problems before the marriage (which he was in such a hurry to get into, not me), so I was stunned when he said that. His family- no big surprise- dad cheated on mom, I think was abusive, and left sometime when he was a teenager. He is oldest son of 4, so he's felt many times like the father of his brothers- is still supporting the youngest. Nonetheless, loves deadbeat dad and has good relationship with him. Loves his mother too. Once acknowledged his fear that we was becoming like his father in our relationship, and a desire to do better than that. his MLC symptoms: depression, dissatisfaction with work, HUGE fear of growing old without accomplishing what he wants- he's only 33 but he seems to think he's 50, lifts weights like a maniac, behaves selfishly much of the time, acts like Jekyll and Hyde (sometimes he will do or say something so touching to show he appreciates me, but that's not very often), blames me for everything. DBing I have done- acting as if, GAL (grad school!), small 180s, no nagging, listening, changing the way I bring up anything stressful so it's as non-threatening as possible. The fact that I've gotten through the previous episodes and am still married is due to these efforts. Lately he has really been working at my self esteem, which is sky high between these crises, but now is at a lifetime low. I think that will come around, but right now I'm just hurting so much.
