I agree with braveheart. This forum can be horrible. Much of what people tell us here is NOT in Michelle's book. She doesn't say 'get shat on'. She doesn't say wait forever. She doesn't say that if they remarry, hang in there.

There is a pervasive karma here...among many....to wait at that dock long after the cruise ship left thinking it will return to you while everyone else is singing, dancing and getting ready for the first sitting.

My STBXW trapt is a hairdresser. In the beginning, she kept saying, "I'll always cut your hair". She would plunge the scissors into my scalp now given the opportunity.

My advice is like braveheart's....a hearty 'round 2' of 'go on with your life'. Forget this and go forward. Real 'babysteps' are dramatic returns. Don't get tripped up by their 'blips' of guilt. FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;