UPSIDE DOWN and struggling badly.

[Sanderika]

Another thing....

Yes, H starts a fight with you because it makes it easier for him to leave. He doesn't realize this is his pattern. You do therefore you can break the pattern. Get clever.

When he leaves let him lock you in...it's his way of making you safe. If you lock him out in the dark before he can blink, think about how he felt. My guess is a bit hurt and sad. I would wait til his car was driving off before I shut the lights out and locked the door. Anything less looks uninviting. You want to portray inviting right now.

One more....

Yes, they come and go as they please...if they say a few minutes it will be an hour and a half. You get the idea. This is not really much to have concern over unless they say they will be by and blow you off completely and don't show at all. Just let it go....when he arrives at however late, let it go....this isn't a battle you will want to start. They have no concept of time right now for the most part, except for work. It's selfish, I know, it's something that changes with time. Remember the MLC is all about them.

OH, and a MLC H will say one thing right now and not remember what he said 10 minutes from now. I have experienced this and still do. Don't let it bother you and let it go....It's part of the crisis.

Learn to Live and Let Go, Nell....you will be better off in the long run, trust me. You cannot possible let everything he does/does not do get to you. Right now he doesn't know what he wants or what he is doing. All you can do is be there when he seeks you out. Stay back in the meantime, love him from afar. He knows what you want. Let him live his choices. He is the only one who can bring himself through this journey. If you are a constant and safe haven from his storm...The Lighthouse, H will see it and know it. H will take time to realize it, eventually he will though. It's up to you right now how you want to be and treat H.

GOT TO GO>>>>>>>

Sanderika