I would indeed have done so, because that's the Way I Roll. She emailed to ask if I could relieve her of child-care duties early - Friday instead of Sunday. "Sure, it'll be good to spend time with them.".

Friendy-like. Didn't ask why, didn't whine that I'd jus be getting back from 18 hours' travel.

Meanwhile I hear through the grapevine that - her own assertions in the presence of Fabulous MC#2 to the contrary notwithstanding - she's still telling all and sundry how irritated she is that she has to "support [my] useless a** for the rest of his life."

Oh, no, SP - I don't say things like that and anyway now that the lawyers are dealing with that issue I don't even think about it anymore.

But when I inform her that I've had an offer for a very good position in Other Coastal City, one which would nearly double my earnings but would also require us to flip the custody ratios, it's all Impossible! The effect of more custody on my career is unacceptable to me..

Heads she wins; tails I lose? I think not.