Right GL BUT, and this is a big but, I place a value on my family being together that even with my detachment and my sincere disinterest in H and my utter disappointment in him, the prospect of possibly being able to pull it together would weigh heavy on me. And I believe that would be even if I was happily remarried (which has been affirmed by other women I know who remarried)...
I don't know what remarried women you are talking to, but any "happily remarried woman" that I have ever talked to wonders what she ever saw in her ex. The only ones who think differently are the ones who left the marriage to find greener pastures, not the ones who were left. So you are saying that a happily married woman (intact family) would give up an intact happy family to go back to one that gave her dissappointment and disinterest in ex husband and seriously think they would consider going back to that? I don't buy it. Happily married women shouldn't be talking that way about their new relationships.
Come and talk to me when you have another man in your life and are happy with him. This isn't what I have observed.
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And let's acknowledge that there may be a difference between men and women in terms of tactics...
Of course there is. There is also many similar tactics. (confidence, self esteem, letting go, not sharing with a third person to name only a few)
Where are you going with this? I am stumped that you place so much importance on "intact family" and brush aside "happy well adjusted mutual love and respect family. I guess if "intact family" is your key focus, then you are right that it very well may take you a lifetime to let go. I don't have time to waste by thinking that way.(what if is wasted time) Life is too short to be looking for and find things to be unhappy about. Deal with it and move on works much better. I WILL be and stay happy. Happy people draw other happy people to them.
