"I certainly don't believe that my H puts my needs anywhere close to on par with his own, especially since he has been pushing for me to literally commit suicide."
Now, I realise how serious that was for you-I`d read your post on same. But have to say that this time last year I was the one who begged my H to go throw himself off a bridge. Specifically to leave us and move into River View apartment ao he could go jump in the river when the mood took him.
Boy, the things we say in anger...And yip we know exactly where the soft spots are and how to twist that knife...
So maybe I don`t have my H`s best interests at heart either.
Hey, maybe I`m just as much as an abuser as he is!
I`m thinking his physically threatening me is something he was driven to do my MY insanity. Now I`m not sayin` that in any super submissive way or in a way that will ever allow it to happen again.
Setting boundaries is the cure for that one.
One of the best things I did is to ask him to stop using bad language and to stick my fingers in my ears when he started to rant.
He also knows now(finally!) that he will be listened to.
He knows there`s an outside chance that i won`t answer back with a verbal vomiting of crack pot ideas. Outside chance. I working on making it a definite possibility...
Validating. Now that`s a gem.
I`ve time to digest his ideas when I do that.
The Too Late thing is my problem now.
I`m a slow learner.
Looking to catch up on your sitch Dawn-there`s a lot there!-and post on your thread.
