Hey K, I believe in Karma...will our exes get hit by a bus? Probably not, even if that is what they deserve. However, I am certain (in spite of their low morality and lack of conscience) that there will be moments when they will have regrets (or maybe worse)....I truly believe that. My D8 expressed the desire to cut short her week with her mom because she wanted to be with her dad (she misses him). There is nothing that can hurt my ex more than that. Keep being yourself K...you will get over this slowly and you will be happy again ....maybe even happier. Oh yes, I like what Ali's mom said about revenge...be happy....we do not need them to be happy.... we can do alot better than the exes we had to endure for several years.... screw them!!!!!
I am starting a new thread. Enough with this already. stbxH called to say they are at their destination. I hardly talked to him. My voice cut like knife. This is what he deserves. And it comes naturally to me. So... what's next?
It may seem like your H will go out, remarry and "be happy" but honestly, as long as he's still screwed up inside w/himself (and it is very clear by his actions that he's a complete mess psychologically), he'll never be able to be truly happy. Something will always hold him back.
So, part of your karma is that right there - your H may seem happy, but he'll never get to truly know love and what it can do. He won't be able to sustain the lie he lives in as it will eventually eat him up.
Also, they say "a tiger never changes its stripes" so do you really think he'll change and become a "model husband" all of a sudden? I don't.
Finally, if he does find himself and get to a place where he can understand his own issues and learn to embrace them, he'll be forever filled w/guilt over losing his family that he'll never be able to be completely happy.
There is very little realistic chance your H will ever be "truly happy" b/c he has way too much baggage. He'll put on a good front and trudge along, but you should know that he's simply just being what he's shown himself to be w/you - a complete fake and a sham.
Don't worry about his happiness (I can't see it coming his way). Instead, as John said, "screw him" and live your life.
Every second spent on him is time robbed from you and your kids. He's not worth it. Your time is too valuable to throw it away on something so meaningless as wondering about H.
Kalni..if you want to feel 'un-alone' in all this....come over to my sitch and read what's going on.
I'm telling you Kalni...you are NOT ALONE in the really messed up world of what people do.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
You are right, I have two sisters. They are great. And I have taken on my brothers-in-law as my brothers. I just call some of my good male friends brothers. I guess because I never really had a brother?
I want to come to Greece myself! I do not have the money right now. I know I could charge it but I have no credit card debt FINALLY! And so I don't want to get any new debt.
Thanks for telling me on my thread that I am not dumb, just human. And you are right, we need to respect their choices even if they are stupid choices.
That is why I am pushing forward now more than I ever did before. So he can live the choice he has convinced me that he wants for himself.
