I told my friends (our friends) after I told him I knew something was up with the specific woman. I told his dad who asked him and of course xH denied everything.
I was accused of being crazy and finding ways, inoccent victims to pin my inadequacy as a wife on. I did not follow my gut feeling to show up at a few of his trips.
2 years later, August 5th, my keylogger worked. 1000 emails and 400 pics. The story of a love affair. It started :May 2006. The affair was on for 3 years. Seeing each other every day, thinking of moving in together, an abortion, trips, vacation, all that while we were living in the same house and most of that, before the bomb even. (once he moved out, there were problems in Paradise).
I told everybody and of course ended the fake reconciliation he had asked for (they are still seeing each other). stbxH is mad at me but feels relieved as he says. He told me that every time I was feeling something was wrong, I was right...
I would tell everybody if I had hard proof. I would not make the same mistake again, where I just expressed my suspicions he was cheating but never went ahead to prove it. I closed my eyes and hoped it was something "small". I would hire a PI. It would have saved me years of my life. K
