Better yet... I don't think he knows what I look like.(unless W showed him a pic...do cheating spouses do those things???)
Anyway I could pull out the pic of him in his Speedos and pick hair dye (with my wife’s side cut off) and ask him if he knows this guy that I am looking for him..

You may be right OT.. Tonight when I was talking to W I told her my itinerary for tomorrow..

Me: I need to get up about 6:00am and go stack fire wood. Then I will probably be all sweaty so I am coming home before I go to Santa Rosa and take a shower...If you hadn't taken yours yet we can take it together to save water.

W: (laughed)

I would try it OT but W is NOT a morning person…..Maybe later that day when I get back for working some more at the wood pile I can tell her I am going to take another shower and I can ask her if she can come scrub my back?

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know