Well done on getting the car serviced! I know I was overly reliant on H for many things throughout our marriage and I couldn't even do internet banking. Each independent step is a personal victory isn't it? I like the brevity of your messages after, too. Like his reply, too. It showed interest in further conversation but you finished it nicely.
Now I'm probably not the best one to give advice but given that most folk will be asleep at this time I do want you to have some thoughts to ponder. I remember when H first posed the insurance claim I liked Jeff's suggestion of "you are joking aren't you?" however, I'm not sure if he ever followed up on his question or if this is his follow up. If he's asking do you want to do anything about the missing equipment I'd just say no. The ball is then squarely back in his court.
As for the washing and ironing the great temptation is to leave it all. However, I'm thinking that as he's moving out he'll soon enough discover the pain of doing his own laundry. Perhaps you should leave things as they have always been and then he comes home to the calm and peace of an organised home. This positive image stays in his mind and you also negate the opportunity for any conflict.
