Well done on getting the car serviced! I know I was overly reliant on H for many things throughout our marriage and I couldn't even do internet banking. Each independent step is a personal victory isn't it? I like the brevity of your messages after, too. Like his reply, too. It showed interest in further conversation but you finished it nicely.
Now I'm probably not the best one to give advice but given that most folk will be asleep at this time I do want you to have some thoughts to ponder. I remember when H first posed the insurance claim I liked Jeff's suggestion of "you are joking aren't you?" however, I'm not sure if he ever followed up on his question or if this is his follow up. If he's asking do you want to do anything about the missing equipment I'd just say no. The ball is then squarely back in his court.
As for the washing and ironing the great temptation is to leave it all. However, I'm thinking that as he's moving out he'll soon enough discover the pain of doing his own laundry. Perhaps you should leave things as they have always been and then he comes home to the calm and peace of an organised home. This positive image stays in his mind and you also negate the opportunity for any conflict.
It was a bit of victory with the car, I have just finished fixing the washing machine (blockage in the drain hose) and did the clean out of the internals of the dryer - all on my own.
The email about the insurance claim is a follow up as I never bothered replying last time, so I may jut go with No, will ponder that one a bit more.
Yes you are right, I will do the washing and ironing and have a meal ready for him Sunday. Don't know about an organised home given the chaos of packing but hopefully once I have most of the boxes done and stacked there is a bit of organisation present in the home. The last thing I want is for him to have a negative she is a you know what thought about me, I always want to be at the top of the tree as far as manners and behaviour goes something I have always tried to maintain.
Lovely, haven't been up that way in many years. The furtherest I have gone lately is Newcastle where my S is based at the moment until he gets sent back to Tamworth.
Hope your weather is better than ours at the moment, we have severe weather warnings.
it's actually quite warm and we haven't had much rain. Not sure if this means the cold weather is all over now but it's been perfect........warm days and cool evenings.
I haven't been to Newcastle sor many years and can't really remember it. As for Melbourne I go there at least annually. was last there at Christmas time and went to Carols with D. It was wonderful...actually it was H who bought us the tickets.
We've had rain and incredible winds that are causing a lot of damage with trees and roofs blowing off. Not exactly cold but not warm either.
Newcastle is changing a lot, big effort by the council and government to bring it back to life, lot of redevelopment and cleaning up going on.
I think that is why I like the area we are living in and don't want to leave it as it makes me feel like I am in Qld, very tropical looking with the trees and water, very cliched I know, but you feel like you are holidays when you come home at night.
I have never been to the Carols at Christmas even though I have always lived here, maybe that is something I will do one year just to be different. Definitely not something my H would ever go to.
We went as a family quite a few years ago and H wasn't overly keen but at the end he said he enjoyed it. It was a wonderful family night and the peace I felt as we walked across the gardens to the hotel was something that will stay with me forever. I remember thinking, this is what the peace of Christmas is really all about. people were calm and happy and they were calling out Merry Christmas. It was lovely. I do love Melbourne but now I'm caught between two states.
I might think about going this year maybe stay in the city with D won't bank of H being there just yet. Sounds like something I might enjoy after this year. I think D would enjoy it particularly after finishing exams.
Melbourne is lovely, S prefers it over the places he has lived but I think he will settle in Newcastle eventually anyway if his final posting is there and his girlfriend is from Coffs. D never wants to leave Melbourne but will be going to Geelong for Uni at the end of school. I may move down there with her depending on what happens with H in the next 12 months or so, at this stage I would like to think he will be with me but who knows.
