back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

Just need to vent...I don't know how so many on this board put up with it. I am in day 5 of a family vacation. It has been so darn painful. I have held my toungue so many times. I ping her for dumping S so she could chat it up with some strangers at the beach. S was so pissed off I had to say something. It was simple but of course she didn't get it. She dumped him and i said S was ticked that she dumped him to speak with strangers.. Exactly what he told me. W made some lame excuse and S said whatever and so did I.

W made a new friend while I was away for the day. Or course it was wiu the only divorced person vacationing where we are staying. Who of course had her ex H vacation with her. My W's thought of how we will be.

I feel like a third wheel on my own vacation now. Watching after the kids while she shoots the bull with her new friend. Kids are ticked and their patience is short with her lately. I have to call them off a few times every day. D pinger her when she was asking W a question and she was on her blackberry texting away on facebook. D said never mind I didn't mean to interupt you. I just don't matter anymore to you, your messages are more important than me. It took W about 5 minutes to acknowledge D and she asked what it was That D wanted. D said see you didn't pay any attention to what I was saying. You do this all the time.

W just can't seem to focus on the kids. She zones out. I have seen it so many times this week. It makes me scared for what happens when I am not around. She is focused on drinking as well. Which is a huge no no with lexapro. Does anyone have any thoughts on lexapro and alcohol?

Friend said my W needs a fresh start. His W went through this stage as well. It was a divorce she wanted. His W said the same things as my W. Specifically about moving with him if he had to relocate. Well that is really what my sitch has become. New job=new city. But I have slowed the process a bit because of R and wife going to school. She says no problem we should move. In fact wants to move to where we are vacationing. Which is one the possiblilities for work. Any thoughts? I am trying to make the job move for me and my kids future. That has always been the plan. It is something I am looking forward to as GAL. Taking a risk for a change.