NC--I'm so sorry!! wow--yes, you have every right to be as concerned as you are. good opportunity to set some serious boundaries with their mother, asap.

and you're right--everything else, all the pain and grief up to this point pale in comparison to how we feel when our kids become involved, and we feel powerless to protect them.

M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012