Not sure whether this is moot at this point or not ... but because all things being equal, I always think it's preferable if spouses with young children are able to reconcile ....
.... your DB coach gave you some good advice *in this instance*. There's a lot of truth to "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned." It looks her "the One" is getting ready to/trying to dump her on her butt. When that sinks in, the starry eyed phase can wear off with a vengeance.
The advice about making yourself attractive and mysterious as opposed to a Johnny-on-the-spot lapdog still applies.
IMHO, the wheel is still spinning on this one. IF you think you can forgive and work past this, it may still resolve in your (and your children's) favor.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
